Anonymous
My current wife is really struggling with the fact that I have an ex-wife and share a daughter with her (even though she’s known this from the very beginning, 4 years). Anytime something comes up about my ex, my wife becomes angry and frustrated. Her feelings are valid, her emotions are valid but I am sincerely worried that she is wearing this spite against my ex and that it is harming her, me, and her step child. There is very little we can do about our frustrations as I cannot force others to change but my wife is really struggling and fighting against every little disagreement that comes our way with my ex. I know the Lord teaches us to receive his peace and to forgive our enemies and I’ve tried to tell my wife this but I am worried she cannot see the peace that lays before her. It is becoming a big part of the division between us even though I am trying to give my wife what she needs I feel it is not helpful and only adding fuel to the fire. I feel constantly in the middle and it is taking its toll on my joy, my focus, and my mental health. I pray for wisdom, humility, knowing what to say and what she will receive. But most importantly that I would trust the Lord’s guidance.